Silence must fall…


I’m a naturally argumentative sort, not a thing to be proud of as I tend to get very emotional in face-to-face encounters — most unseemly for a skeptic — but I’m working on that, and I’ve learned to use the silent approach in some discussions, to verbally shun my opponent by saying nothing.

No response at all, this approach, not acknowledging their argument, and not even acknowledging their presence.

I’ll be the first to admit I don’t do this as consistently as I’d like — For me, it’s a better way to handle potentially acrimonious debates with people I’d rather remain friends with — and it gets easier with practice.

And it works.

There’s even a study that shows it to be more effective for keeping one’s cool in a disagreeable situation with otherwise disagreeable people.

It’s good to have the science confirm what seemed already to be a good idea.

Responding to an argument with silence is not weakness, but good for resource conservation, and in many cases, much more effective.

So, yes, in many situations, silence must fall…

…and it shall.

As long as it doesn’t break up into a million and six pieces when it hits the floor, of course…

About Troy Loy

I seek to learn through this site and others how to better my ability as a person and my skill at using my reason and understanding to best effect. I do fractal artwork as a hobby, and I'm working to develop it to professional levels, though I've a bit to go till I reach that degree of skill! This is a crazy world we're in, but maybe I can do a little, if only that, to make it a bit more sane than it otherwise would be.

Posted on Wednesday, 0:00, February 27, 2013, in Musings & Ponderings, Psych/Brain stuffs and tagged , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. I’ve come to the same conclusion, so thanks for sharing the science. It helps me feel more rational.

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  2. late last spring i was given a criteria by which to govern my speech: words should be used only when they can make a difference. i have found, if i’m really honest with myself, that really narrows it down. altho mastering the use of this deceptively simple criteria is another matter. :D thank you, Troy, as always you give me hope.

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